Why gay men knowingly take risk in sex?

Why gay men knowingly take risk in sex?

Obviously being gay is a taboo and I have talked about it in my previous articles but the thing which makes it more complicated and horrible is the tendency to take risk in sex. Sex is never safe and when we talk about gay sex, it’s really more complicated and questionable in every sense. Despite endless limitations and boundaries gay men in India enjoy a perfect sex life with full satisfaction and unlimited alternative guys. Thanks, to the pornography and gay dating sites which transformed the boring taboo life of gay man. It’s not bad to make love to men as they are attracted to man only but pushing boundaries to a higher level is a serious evil. Although unnatural sex has been since history and it is performed with men as well as woman but its consequences are getting nasty with every new era.

The term unnatural makes it complicated from the word itself as it says that it’s against nature. Although some say that being gay is against nature too but recent studies have proved that being gay is a nature’s decision and not a human choice but when it comes to sex why gay men prefer which they really don’t like?

Most of the gay men don’t like anal sex with an obvious reason it’s very painful. Well pain can be handled and tolerated but the fear of getting caught by HIV is something which makes things worse and scary but still a good majority of gay men are getting themselves fucked and some other good majority is fucking gay men with there so called birth right but the question which comes in my mind is that why gay men don’t say no to anal sex when they know that its painful and contagious? What makes them motivated towards this troublesome fun?

Well the gay world has some different rules when it comes to sex. The guys who fuck are called as top and the guys who get fucked are called as bottom. Well it’s like deciding there roles in bed and the one who enjoys both are called versatile. The gay men who are top generally consider themselves superior than gays who are bottom and the demand for gay men who are top is more than the demand of bottoms. The reason behind this fact is top gay men are considered more manly and hard than bottom gay men and hence the demand is high.

The entry of bisexual man in gay communities makes things more complicated and demanding as most of the bisexual man enjoy fucking and consider anal sex as the priority. They only do sex on one condition and that is they will fuck no matter the gay men like it or not. But why gay men get themselves treated like slaves in bed? Why they are so dependent on top gay men to get themselves satisfied? Well there are different reasons and answers of these questions.

Anal sex which can lead them to early grave is welcomed without hesitation. Most of the gay men are lonely and depressed and they are fully dependent on there fuck buddies and friends. They consider there casual sex lovers and fuck buddies as there destiny and most of them lack aim and goals in life as they are tortured every day by family and society. Although anal sex gives pleasure too but the cost of pleasure is seriously very high.

Most of them are not optimistic but are passing time with the dependency on sex. One more reason behind this fact is lack of knowledge and alertness among gay men. The issue of homosexuality is never discussed in open and is considered a big taboo and expecting the knowledge about anal sex in books is seriously like expecting moon on the terrace. The sex education is seriously underdeveloped in India and its stupidity to expect openness and knowledge about gay issue in India.

The rectum which is meant to excrete stool is not designed to get something inserted inside but as well all know everything is fare in love and war.

The Fear Of discovery among gay men in India

The Fear Of discovery among gay men in India

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Now they are easily recognized and unbelievably admired in some communities. From film cities to casting couch they are famous and respected as there identity and hard work speaks and rules the Indian film industry. No matter how much straight you are and no matter how much you hate the concept of being gay, sooner or later you will be friends with some gays as its all about networking in the bloody film world. well its such a unique thing that some of the very famous entities belong to homosexual community and there work and post dominates effectively, there power and glamour vanishes the taboo of being gay as people are dependent on money and the powerful people but the most important twist which can affect the confidence of these famous homosexual people is the fear of discovery. Although it’s a known fact that they are homosexual but still the reality remains blur and unreal as different allegations and misconceptions are raised from time to time which creates a very confusing atmosphere which is highly unpredictable about there real identity.

Being homosexual and admitting the same in public is a very tough task and can lead to uncertain and dangerous consequences as many insane straight people need reason to poke and exploit. But is that the only reason for being in closet for so long. It’s such a taboo to see that these homosexuals have to live a trapped life away from freedom in the freely independent country.

The fear of discovery is so high that they are bound and compelled to even hide there faces by masks in there own gay pride parades. The most funny questions which comes in the viewers mind is that what kind of pride is this when they cannot even face the world openly with there real identity.

Well being gay is normal as the science is the real and most powerful evidence which advocates about the reasons of there existence. Today the world knows it but still most of the gay men are not proud of being gay. They find this situation very pathetic and scary as they only see this as an awful dream. From doctors to saints they follow  whatever they could to correct themselves and on the same hand they enjoy the privilege of sex with the same sex as they cannot control there urge which is common and justified. Most of the gay men and straight people forget that being gay is not a choice; they are designed to love same sex. Nothing can change it, you cannot listen by your nose and you cannot smell by your ear and if some how you try to change this process you will end up being a foolish. In the same manner the orientation is decided inside the womb which is a decision of nature not the human being monopoly.

The biggest drawback which is killing the reality and respect and existence of gay men is there own community. The fear of discovery can be considered justified in case of straight community but the reality is funny and horrible at the same time. Most of the gay men are not disclosed to there own community. They pose as straight or bisexual to other gay men in order to remain superior and in order to protect themselves from any risk of being caught and those who reveal themselves as gay to there community do not reveal there real names and identity. They admit they are gay but with fake name, fake place and everything fake which prevents there identity and there existence to greater level. Well it does not affect there sex life as more than 90% of gay men are not concerned with reality and identity , for them no strings attached fun is a better option . The key to survival is openness and boldness with courage and pride, the fear of discovery among gay men proves that the homosexuals do not respect there own community, so how can they expect acceptance from outer world?

How can you become rich in reality?

How can you become rich in reality?

Well this article is a center of attraction for everyone as there is no human in this world who hates money. Anyways let’s start this wonderful process of earning loads of money. Well I am not selling any lottery here and I am not telling you any shortcut way of tricks or games to earn money here. This process needs patience and motivation but it surely works.

Money has been the most important need and want for everyone and no matter how much we deny this valuable fact, money is the only medium by which we can live our life smoothly. As money is the main priority for running our daily lives its impact is also dramatic and dangerous.

The most important things we forget while earning our daily living is that every other person thinks like us. No matter how much different we are from other person we all have same desires and liking's in terms of money. The level of desires may be distinct but the intentions of spending are almost same.

Everyone desires for luxury but every one's priority is responsibility and debts. No matter how much powerful or powerless we are, we all desire for a smooth trouble free life. We all wish to enjoy a life full of peace and harmony. We all want to live a trouble free life but in the phase of competition we forget the art of making our life the perfect life.

Well this life is precious; you never know what happens next, so being stubborn or angry will not solve our problems. The biggest thing is we engage ourselves into the most useless competition and that is the competition with our friends, neighbors and relatives. Yes it’s the most useless, time wasting activity we do entire life in order to prove our status higher than these people which does not prove anything at the end of the day.

The biggest problem is comparison, comparison for no reason. This comparison and competition provokes us to convert our want into need and this misconception creates difficulty in our normal life. We feel low, we feel less than perfect and we surely feel inferior which does not prove anything in anyway. No matter how much lavishly we spend our money, we will face everything by our own. From our troubles to our debts to our worries, we will be surely responsible for our own actions as no relative and no friend will prove helpful in our bad times.

The over spending and careless spending makes us short of funds and our urge to show more does not make us realize the mistakes we are doing while dealing with money. Money is not favorable to anyone. Money is dangerous if noticed by wrong people. Some of us also have tendency to show extra large but in reality we are extra small. Well spending beyond our capacity will not only put us in trouble but will also ignite some negative elements who are surrounded by us in shape of friends or acquaintances or work mates and even servants.

Money provokes everything and it has the power to turn a saint into the devil. It’s really important to use it wisely as money will never extinct but our one mistake may put our name is history.

The right spending and careful use will defiantly prove beneficial, it’s a long process and you can surely try this for 6 months or may be a year and you will surely notice the difference.

Why children object their divorcee or widowed parent to have sex?

Why children object their divorcee or widowed parent to have sex?

It’s really hard to survive with the fact that your parents are divorced or you lost one of your parents. Well in both the cases (divorce/widow) children lose there complete family and feel frustrated. They just don’t want to see this separation.  It has been seen that things become more difficult and dramatic when the parents are divorced. The child who was used to their guardians and their day to day living and love has to adjust him/ her according to the realities of the world. He/she has to adjust to the maximum and sacrifice the whole concept of family.

The parents who were so much in love and affection are now dating other person which not only creates a mental tension among children but a kind of revolt inside their little hearts. The children cannot see and accept some stranger taking the place of their mother and father. For them there parents are ideal match no matter how much they fight .Its a usual issue among families which are going through the process of divorce.

Talking about widowhood , the families where children lose there one parent , it could be mother or father , they know that their one member of the family has been gone and their is no way of bringing them back but still they preserve the position of the lost member by assuming or imagining there existence and presence in their hearts.

But what about the person who is left alone? Well children may feel that they are the only one who are affected at the greater level by the death of there parent but the biggest loss is suffered by the guardian who lost his/her companion. Parents not only play the role of guardian but they had many roles with there companion. From good friends to good lovers to good emotional bonds they share everything with each other. The death is seriously something which creates suicidal feeling among the left alone partner. The father or mother whomsoever is facing widow hood cannot share every need and want with their children. As a human we have many needs and wants, we all running towards our needs and wants in our one life then how we cannot expect the needs and wants of our parents?

 Well most of the children and society put restrictions on the widowed parent by banning his/her sex life and social life. Well banning here does not mean like any law or something but by putting social restrictions and remarks. If the widowed parent engages himself/herself in  love affair or sex encounters , things become over dramatic as his/her casual relationships and sex encounters are considered taboo.

Well this restriction generally starts from children’s side first as they do not motivate their parent for dating, instead they encourage them to devote their rest of life for their welfare and upbringing which is surely the most meanest and selfish trait of today’s youth.

The person who is widowed is not a criminal, he/she is already facing the pain of sacrifice and detachment but still the youth puts restrictions on their parents with the most common excuse that “we cannot allow anyone to take our mother/father place.”

Sex is a pure body need and there is no shame about it. It’s a well justified need and every one has right to enjoy there life and there own personal space. Being a parent is not a punishment and being widowed or divorcee is not a curse, every person is human first and foremost and fostering self needs and wants is seriously not a sin.

The divorcee parents who don’t feel uncomfortable with there ex due to any valid reasons do have the right to start there new life with new choices. Children’s do not have any right to control the life of their divorced parents. Divorce is a critical option only taken when things do not work out in any way.

It’s the mutual duty of parents to adjust there liabilities and issues smoothly , it’s a fact that the life of children is affected by this critical and most heart breaking decision of divorce but carrying the load of an unsuccessful marriage is seriously not a wise option.

We get one life and no one knows what happens next after this life. Being born as a human is a blessing so gain this opportunity by enjoying love and pleasure in life don’t waste this one life in unnecessary quarrels and fight as at the end of the day you will be left alone with nothing but regret.

But why she was raped ?

The recent news of gang rape of a 23yr old girl by 6 drunkards on a running bus has left a miserable impact on the psyche of families…Especially the fathers, brothers and boyfriends. May be because of what all happened to the girl… her bf was thrown out of the bus, she was raped for continuous 2 hours, beaten by iron rod and the rod even inserted into her due to which her small and large intestines are damaged. Thrown out of the bus at last she was lying hurt and nude on the road and nobody even cared to cover her up until the police arrived.  

Her face was also damaged and she’s lying in coma… several operations done and doctors are still uncertain if she’ll survive or not.  The incident has led to a mass protest in the country. Of course the inference of the brutal incident is that the city or I must say India is not safe for women. But worth noticing is how are families reacting to this and how such incident took place in the CAPITAL CITY of the country.

I’m a convent educated girl. My principal Mrs. Williams used to tell us a story every Friday, the baseline of which was always that “SMALL THINGS MATTER A LOT”. Thinking on the same grounds I started analyzing as to what is responsible for such a brutal act??? 

Is it the inefficiency of Law??

 Or the Police?? Or the society?? 

Or the psyche of people regarding the status of women in the countryIndia?? 

Or is it movies? 

Entertainment? Porn??  Increasing female infanticide?? 

Or is it the women themselves??

2,28,674(approx.) rape cases were reported in year 2011 excluding the cases of marital rape ( coz that’s not even counted as rape).. From that only 58,000 cases were acted upon and 90% of the culprits are still living in jail. Moreover the punishment for the crime is just 7 yrs in prison. This is what we talk about law??

And the police????  In a magazine survey of about 100 police stations it was revealed that police officers do not act on the reports, and the justifications they give for the matter is that 90% of the women filing such reports are either prostitutes or the ones aggressing the males themselves. Not just this… in a country where vehicles having tinted windows are not allowed; a bus with curtains and tinted windows roam almost everywhere in the city brutally raping a girl and is not stopped even by a single traffic police officer.

We blame the law and the police at the highest of our pitch but what about the society where female infanticide is increasing day by day rendering a girl child as a burden on the family??? 

And especially a burden due to dowry demands and mythical notions that a male child carries a family’s existence and the funeral done by a son will confirm you salvation or a place in heaven. Or the society where girls are restricted, forced to submission, stay homely, beaten, burnt, abused, and even raped by several members of the family in which she is married???

 What would the guys brought up in such families learn??? 

That abusing and beating a girl is normal!! coz my dad does that to my mother, my brother does that to his wife, so its cool if I do the same to my wife or gf????? 

This is the situation of literate. And the illiterates???? 

Majority of people live below poverty line struggling for daily living, working as house maids, drivers, auto and rickshaw pullers, vegetable or fruit sellers, street vendors etc who marry the girls of 13 or similar age and by the age of 27 these ladies give birth to 13-14 kids. Some of them are sold, some given away for child labor, some opt for unfair means and some die out of some illness. How is crime not expected from such people who are so frustrated and struggling for a living????

This is not everywhere. There are families with the so called “modern beliefs”.. They don’t restrict their girls, co-education and all are encouraged. Wearing modern dresses is also allowed. But I also have a query regarding this uneven modernization of the society. Girls visit malls and public places wearing sexy/tight dresses intending to attract some handsome guy the filmy way. How bout the lusty beasts selling fruits or driving vehicles by the road side?? Is it a girl’s fault or is a guy’s fault?? Or is it both the ways???

Even if I skip blaming the guys and the girls here, how about the films and entertainment world??? The explicit sex scenes had been increasingly shown in movies, item songs with some bar dancers dancing in bikinis around drunken guys… God knows what sensor board does!!  Or the cheap porn been shown in old theatres of not so developed cities?? And such content being easily available to cheap people???

 Or the increasing adventurous twists in the porns ranging from blowjobs to gangbangs and stuffs like this??? Or Some women publicly announcing to go nude if the cricket team won the match?? Some women being forced to give similar pleasures and some are volunteering happily for the same.

Or is it us??? The people of so called “civilized society” ranging from doctors, lawyers, businessmen to officers, politicians, actors and celebrities who talk and discuss at length about such heinous crimes, whine about the mismanagement in the society, criticize law, criticize police, say things like: “city isn’t safe.  ... Such people must be hanged or given punishments publicly... Etc etc”, sympathize with the suffering victim, restrict the girls and ladies at home and having their part of duty done take nice nap on their comfortable mattress??? Aren’t we also responsible in the 0.001% way for the incident that happened with the little innocent girl????

Like expected my family has also restricted my movement because they are also scared. But what makes a difference for me is that in the morning my dad handed me a pepper spray saying: “the city is not safe and you must carry this with you. Not just this, I’m going to teach you self defense so that wherever you are, you can protect yourself. Other than that you just need to be a little alert whenever you go out.”.

And I think this is what really needs to be done in addition to implementation of strict laws… A social reform, change of psyche, teaching the girls and the weak to protect themselves and to stay alert.

Gandhi ji said: women have much more potential than men. And with this I Dr. Prerna want to appeal all the people reading this blog to please teach your kids love and respect for the girls and the weak, teach your girls to protect themselves. Because the society changes the city and cities change the country. Small things do matter a lot. If nothing changed then the day is not far when women will protect themselves their way.

Who will save India from crime?

Who will save India from crime?

Its high tide and things are really horrible and scary. People are scared and they are diverting there minds towards peace and almighty. The god can only make things smooth and safe as human beings are no longer trust worthy. Everything looks empty and corrupt. It’s really hard to step outside as the victim does not get justice easily. The atmosphere of corruption and hatred is affecting the mental abilities and psychology of humans. The money and materialistic needs is converting humans into parasitic vampires. There is no emotion or sentiments left for another human. Everything seems so lost and destroyed and people are confused where to go as expecting honesty and trust seems bookish now.

The law and order and the police force looks handicapped as they cannot take desired action in case of any crime. From corruption to assault to rape, the criminals are breaking the world records in India. From intense brutality to inhuman activities crime is at its peak and criminals enjoy the privilege of leniency.

There is always an atmosphere of action and alertness when the crime is already conducted. The victim is only considered victim when he /she is at its most pathetic state. No matter whom so ever we elect as our political leader, we cannot expect ultimate freedom and safety as people will never change and the administration will always fail.

The importance of money and lust is brain washing people and there innocence is degrading day by day. Well things will never change as there is no magic wand which can improve the mentality and mindset of people. The criminal will always commit crime and the victim will always cry, the public will notice and unnotice the issues, the government and leaders will always play politics on the critical issues and again people will forget everything as some new incident or crime or issue will be in limelight by the media.

How gay men live there married life with there straight wife’s?

How gay men live there married life with there straight wife’s?

It’s basically an unusual marriage. Its unique and the most diverse one. It’s especially not a happy marriage but a forced one. Parents usually wonder why there mature adult son says no to marriage? Why he always have excuses when it comes to marriage? And why he does not bring his girlfriend home? Well the gay guys look very innocent and genuine to there families as they are not like regular straight guys. There families do not hear and notice the complaints from neighbors for teasing there daughters , they do not get themselves carried away in guys fight , they do not do much of a wild stuff that straight guys do in there life. Well they are like cow, you can say like a well obedient daughter who takes care of the home and family. Well this does not mean that gay men are feminine or girlish but this trait of innocence and responsible behavior encourages parents and relatives to arrange a good match for there ideal son.

Marriage is the dream for parents and in case of only son; things become really pushy and forceful. Well gay men often linger on the things and divert them in busy affairs but sooner or later they had to face the reality. Most of them come out and shock there family and the world but some remain silent and afraid and leave everything in gods hand. Well from the day parents look out for perfect girl for there son to the day they get married, they usually remain in constant tension with smile. They only wonder about one thing and that is sex.

Sex is the most critical issue which affects there relationship. Well they cannot change themselves and as they are created to love same sex and this creation is by nature, it’s not a man made concept, they cannot adjust themselves to there opposite sex partner. The issue of sex makes them weak from the head to toe. The wedding night is like a prison in hell for them and they just wonder what to do? The only solution they get is ignorance. The bitter reality is that they can ignore for one night but ignoring sex every night will surely raise the doubt. The woman loves to get fucked but when there is no fuck, things become really serious and dangerous for guy’s health.

The out comes are horrible, the unconsummated woman often file for divorce and leave there gay husband immediately but the twist is still not disclosed here. The biggest problem is of lack of knowledge and advancement. Most woman consider there gay husbands as impotent and look out for reasons and remedies to cure the impotency of there husband. Well they waste most of there months and years in adjusting as they think that there husband is ill and he needs help and support. Things become worse when gay men put wrong allegations on there wife’s to protect there self respect and identity. They consider there wife as a corrupt slut, they criticize her and blame her for the entire situation which makes things complicated and tough in the process of divorce.

The process of divorce is seriously dramatic and disastrous as there is shot of allegations by both the parties and it’s really not easy to take divorce easily. The process is lengthy and painful and the settlement on money also creates hatred.

Well this procedure may affect the lives of both the parties but the woman is the only sufferer in the whole marriage game. The gay men off course is on higher level as he gets freedom of independence from divorce but the unconsumed woman has to sacrifice and adjust her life as a second class citizen. She has to face allegations as well as sarcastic remarks from family and relatives, besides being the victim she has to live her life either alone or with any divorcee or widower.